Finely chopped your cabbage then pour hot water to soak the cabbage the reason I do that my granny had troubles to chew so my mom will do that to soften the cabbage for my granny to enjoy the salad so I always do that even my granny has long past away.

Then grate the carrots and drain the water from the cabbage sometimes you will have to squeeze with your hand then mixes together carrots and cabbage